Do Your Beliefs Match Your Desires?

 

It’s truth o’clock, baby

Here it is

When you don’t feel the love you want, or have the relationship that you desire, it’s NOT because:

•all the good ones are taken

•there are no available/quality/attractive men/women in your town

•You are somehow deficient/unworthy/damaged goods

•”They” are holding out on you/not giving you what you want

What it almost always IS about is:

• the fact that you’ve been telling yourself that all of these things ^ are irrefutable. You’ve told yourself they’re true, and therefore you have energetically slammed the door on ANY OTHER ALTERNATIVE.

To say it another way:

•if you say all the good ones are taken, you will find evidence of this in your life

•If you believe there are no good men/women in your town, you have built a wall that will keep them out. Even if they arrive on your doorstep with flowers and a Tiffany engagement ring, you won’t recognize them because your belief is contrary

•If you constantly tell yourself that you are unworthy, in need of change, damaged goods, or deficient in any way, your dating life will continue to reflect this belief about you

•If you’re convinced that it’s all about your partner not giving you what you want, he or she will keep right on not giving you what you want, regardless of how convincing your arguments are (hint: there’s no changing “them”. There’s only deciding what you will and won’t accept and behaving accordingly. But that’s a topic for another day. Or, better yet, a digital course…)

So, here’s my power question for you today:

Do your beliefs match your desire?

Do you want something so badly and in your next breath shut that desire down by the power of your thought?

Your thoughts are POWERFUL, sweets

So powerful that if you believe something in opposition to your desire, you will NEVER manifest that desire into your life

If you say, “I believe in love” but then say, “I’ll meet a dude when I lose this ten pounds” you’ll either manifest: A) nothing B) a dude who withholds love until you lose those magic pounds.

The best thing you can do is forgive and release the beliefs that are in opposition to your true desires.

There are lots of ways to do it.

Most of them have come from the cumulative experiences of our past, starting in childhood.

You can choose to forgive them right now.

You can let them go.

You can search for a new thought that supports what you really want.

Not a lie. (You won’t believe a lie). But a new truth that you can support with evidence.

For example:

•there must be at least a FEW available, quality people in this town because my neighbour just got married to an awesome person

•Maybe I’m not broken. My friends think I’m awesome

•It’s not about “them”; it’s about me. And this me is available only to real love. I’ve chosen my friends/coworkers/hairdresser/(whatever awesome person you have in your life) so I can choose an awesome partner too.

The truth is this: you are a powerful co-creator. You can have EVERYTHING you want.

But first, you’re going to have to let go of the things that you say, think, and believe that are in opposition to what you want.

Lemme break it down for you:

If you believe in anything contrary to the love you desire, there are zero knights in shining armour coming to convince you otherwise.

If you don’t believe it’s coming for you, it’s not.

If, however, you can have the courage to:

  • write a new story
  • think a new thought
  • change your words
  • believe that you are beyond worthy of receiving only the most loving people into your life

You will move mountains. Love will find you in ways you never believed possible (I know it because I’ve done it).

It cannot work any other way.

Believing is seeing, baby.

 If you don’t know how to believe something different, then email me at info@clumsygrace.com after you’ve checked out this link. The Romance Breakthrough Formula is now accepting applicants. It’s a coaching experience unlike anything I’ve ever offered. It’s six months of coaching and self study designed especially to help you vibe at the level of the pure love that, at your core, you ALREADY ARE. Doors close Valentines Day 2017.

 

Erin McDonald
Writer, Yoga Teacher, Dream Chaser Coach at ClumsyGrace

Erin is an International Transformational Coach, obsessed with facilitating change in the lives of incredible, hilarious women. She’s a Mama, wife, friend, sister, daughter, and cousin; a seeker (and occasional finder) of an authentic life in all its disastrous glory. She has a brave heart, believes in magic, loves tacos, and always wins at Whack-a-Mole


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About the author : Erin McDonald

Erin McDonald

Erin is an International Transformational Coach, obsessed with facilitating change in the lives of incredible, hilarious women. She’s a Mama, wife, friend, sister, daughter, and cousin; a seeker (and occasional finder) of an authentic life in all its disastrous glory. She has a brave heart, believes in magic, loves tacos, and always wins at Whack-a-Mole