Change your habits = feel good

Be Loud With Your Weird (so Your People can Find you)

I sincerely believe that everybody has a people You just can’t tell me (and have me believe you) that there’s no people for you. Not with all of the ways in which we can currently connect with one another. There are people for all the people Even the weirdest among us can have a tribe […]

Do Your Beliefs Match Your Desires?

  It’s truth o’clock, baby Here it is When you don’t feel the love you want, or have the relationship that you desire, it’s NOT because: •all the good ones are taken •there are no available/quality/attractive men/women in your town •You are somehow deficient/unworthy/damaged goods •”They” are holding out on you/not giving you what you […]

Clumsy Guide to Being Your Own Valentine

Raise your hand if you’ve ever had a balls Valentine’s Day I’ve been single and sad, and I’ve been in disappointing Valen-relationships. My hate/hate relationship with the day goes way back. As holidays go, it’s an over-commercialization of love and reinforces unhealthy gender roles. Nonetheless, I love love. Love is my jam. So when my […]

How to Kick your Drama Addiction

Once Upon a Time… I’ve told a story before on this blog, but I feel it’s worth repeating. It’s a story of a conversation I had with my therapist a few years ago. I’d been in therapy before, but this time, I was determined to really get over my hang-ups (ha!). I’d just broken up with […]

3 Tips for Surviving Life as a Peacekeeper/Love-maker/Artist/Dreamer

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable. Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals. – Martin Luther King Jr.   It ain’t easy being a peacekeeper, an artist, a caretaker, a rabble rouser. Changing the world is not for sissies. It […]

A Thank You Note to my (Messy) Single Self

Single Erin was a Hot Mess. If you knew me then, you are probably nodding. Disastrous relationships, lots of flitting about between jobs, friends, geographic locales, nervous breakdowns, a perpetually messy house… Actually, there’s a likelihood that I’ve yet to live down this particular moniker and in light of the fact that there are many more […]