Call me crazy, but I want to surround myself in quitters.
I want to spend my days with people who quit shit.
See, it’s one thing to bitch incessantly about how much you hate your job.
It’s one thing to dream the afternoons away and paper the walls of your cubicle with inspirational quotes from quitters who’ve gone out there and done it for themselves.
It’s quite another matter entirely to actually fucking make the scary leap.
Quitting has a bit of a bad rep.
In fact, it’s generally considered to be a positive attribute to be one who stays.
Quitters are judged and maligned as flakes and weak of character.
I should know.
I am a quitter from way back.
I have (in no particular order) quit:
- not one, but two husbands
- a long-term boyfriend
- about twenty first dates (shudder)
I’ve quit jobs with medical, dental, and RRSP matching. I’ve quit an exclusive Masters program, numerous friendships, moved ten times in ten years, and left the haunted house at Universal Studios through an emergency exit.
I have been judged harshly, and I have been my own harshest critic.
But I’m letting all that go.
Today, I’m speaking up for the divorced and the disenfranchised quitters of the world. I am your people.
Let me tell you why quitting is so necessary to your ultimate happiness…are you ready?
- Sometimes, stuff sucks.
- Sometimes, we don’t know we’ve made the wrong choice until we’ve already made it.
- Sometimes people are really good at duplicity and we don’t realize they’re sociopathic c*nts until we’ve been living with them for six weeks.
- Sometimes we just change. We grow. And we should feel free to move on at our leisure.
In what Owner’s Manual about Life did we read that we have to stick shit out long after it’s reached its best before date?In what Owner's Manual did we read that we have to stick shit out? Click To Tweet
There is virtually nothing that is un-quittable if you have the guts.
Ah, there’s the rub. Quitting takes guts, doesn’t it?
It takes big balls to step off the ledge of the known into the unknown. Some people stay balanced on that precipice for entire lifetimes, too terrified to take the leap.
Some people don’t even acknowledge that there is such a ledge.
And these are the poor folks who will judge you for quitting.
Pity them, Dear One. They don’t even know that there’s a better way.
But you do, don’t you?
You know that you can quit a boyfriend or a job or a degree.
You can quit a friend who drains your energy with her constant inability to quit her job or boyfriend or degree.
You can quit just about any damn thing you damn-well choose to quit.
In fact, Sweetheart, you must.
You. Must. Quit.
If you are to have any chance of being happy, you must walk away from the things that have outlived their purpose.If you are to have any chance of being happy, you must be willing to walk away Click To Tweet
You know that it’s the very definition of insanity to think that you can get happy about your problems simply by complaining about them, or worse, by pretending they aren’t problems.
Were I not a quitter, I would not be happily married to a man who was clearly destined to be my lifelong partner (having first proposed to me when he was five years old with a pipe cleaner).
Had I not quit all those safer jobs, I would not be standing here before you, a free elf.
***Note: You can’t quit your kids, so if you don’t want kids, use contraceptives.***
Other than that, I will argue to the mattresses that you can quit just about anything.
Quitting outdated, out-grown, or straight up mismatched stuff makes room in your life for the beautiful, unknown future.
It takes courage, but it is preferable to the half-lived life.
By all means, pick something (or someone) and commit. Commit with all your heart and soul.
But if at some point along the road, your heart starts to tell you that it’s time to make a different choice, forgive yourself and quit.
Quit, and take a step along the path less taken, the extra mile, where the happy few will be waiting to greet you.Quit, and take a step along the extra mile where the happy few will be waiting to greet you Click To Tweet
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: don’t think that you need to white knuckle it through this life. If something doesn’t fit anymore, quit it.
Obvs you can’t only be a quitter. You have to be a starter of new things as well. You have to be a trier, a doer.
But in order to make room for trying and doing, you gotta quit that shit.
I love you,
Your Fellow Quitter,
Your Turn! What have you quit? How did it turn out? What do you need to quit? We’ll be happy to encourage your quitting. Let’s make a plan! Comment below and let’s get going. This life isn’t going to live itself.
Need help quitting? I’m really good at it. Come get a (gentle) kick in the pants. Quit that which is holding you back and chase your dreams with me.