How to be Available to your Life
“I try to be available for life to happen to me” – Bill Murray
I am totally a homebody. I come from a family of homebodies. My parents, my bro, my husband, and my daughter. As much as we all love to check out what’s going on outside our respective doors, what we love most is coming home from the world and settling in.
Unfortunately, experience doesn’t necessarily come knocking (and the times when drama was a big part of my home life, the experience in question wasn’t especially conducive to creativity). The very thing that makes home so wonderful is that we kinda know what to expect from it.
That being said, those of us actively courting the creative process (in any aspect of life – I’m not limiting creativity to “making art”) need to get out and about now and then in order to gather bits of inspiration and take them back to the homestead. There and then, safe in our burrows, the transmutation of experience into art is free to flow into that which it wants so desperately to become.
Here are some of my fave ways to make myself available to the beautiful life that’s always knock-knock-knocking at the edges of my soul:
* Take care of what you need to take care of
This morning before school, my daughter wanted to complete an art project that she’d been working on. My reply was, “Do all the stuff you need to do, and if there’s still time, you can do the stuff you want to do.”
We all create best when we’re unencumbered by clutter or un-done to-do’s. So tidy up your space, chuck some dinner in the slow cooker, and then enjoy the making and the doing of the fun stuff.
Do a little checklist with yourself. Body. Mind. Spirit. If any one of these areas is lacking, give it a little TLC before you head out toward adventure.
* Start the week off right
I’ve had the Sunday Night Dreads many times in my life. I’m very fortunate that I never have them anymore. My life resembles me as well as it possibly could. This Monday morning is sunny (which helps absolutely everything). I had a green juice and took a yoga class.
The single most important thing I do on Mondays is to set an intention for the week. Sometimes the intention changes as the week wears on (sometimes, it transforms into survival mode) and that’s okay. You don’t want to cripple yourself with your intention. It should be freeing and uplifting and maybe a teensy bit outside of your comfort zone.
This week’s intention for me is:
I am available
It’s hard for me to be available to life when my body feels like shit, so getting in the groove always contains a certain amount of self-care for this chick.
* Get out there
Honestly, just going out into the world with the intention of being available creates wonderful opportunities. I’ve had some beautifully meaningful interactions with strangers at the grocery store or the gas station or flying on planes. Be open to all that is good (but shield your sweet self from the assholes. We like to bless those f*ckers from a safe distance).
* Do something different
Novelty is a great spark for creativity. Take a yoga class from a new instructor. Buy your groceries at a different market. Walk a new path. Make a phone call instead of sending a text message. Order a different kind of latte. Really, anything to break up that routine head space that all of us homebodies are guilty of getting into. If you’re unable to break your routine, try approaching it from a different perspective. Vary the order in which you go through your daily tasks. Stay fresh.
* Keep your eyes open
Once you’re out in the world, get heads up about your day. Watch people. Interact. And most importantly, appreciate. There’s very little that can’t be manifested if you dose it liberally with gratitude. Truth.
* Work together
I know I stress this often here at clumsygrace, but I feel so strongly about working in groups and pairs – especially for us creative/homebody types.
To that end, I’m working on a really exciting upcoming project with one of my all-time favourite people, Brenda!!! Keep an eye on both of our websites and/or social media for updates coming soon. I can’t wait to share this collaboration with you. It leaves me feeling inspired and empowered in my own work to work with people I admire who are really getting things done.
PS Her new Services page is up and running – you can get Readings and Regressions done with her characteristic insight and warmth, from the comfort of your own home.
If you’re anything like me (ie. a strange combo of introvert and extrovert) you sometimes have to force yourself out into the world.
Let me tell you (and myself) this, sweetheart – life is not happening on your couch.
Now get out there and be available to all of the glorious mess that’s trying to make its way to you!
Love and give-up pants,